In the past year and a half I have been through healthy, not so healthy, witty, sometimes obnoxious arguments with my friends, peers, or just people I’d met or seen while on the move. This has been quite a different experience, I say so, since for so long I have not been much into arguments persay, but I ve seen myself as a diplomat and now suddenly I find my diplomatic tendencies only being bolstered by way of arguments.
Love is so surreal to anyone who is not in love. I guess I am putting too much weight on one four letter word while the more famous one had a Phd written on it by Bhagwan himself. Anyways , coming back to the argument on arguments, I feel lovers can have some of the most intense and some of the most silly arguments. Ranging from things as petty as “Who ll have the last crumb..err first crumb?” , to deep insights on the male-female imbalances, to even subjects as far as political sciences, the climate around the world, world music, the list is endless.These normally are the most captivating and engaging ones you can see and I can say I have been fortunate to have been on the hearing side of a few in the recent past. Therein I have found that , be it man or woman the vengeance and determination in putting ones point across has the same zeal. On this note, I have to add that I have always beleived in th Chinese yin-yan philosophy which relates to everything from man-woman, digitisation(one-zero) to heat-cold, black-white n so it goes. Well, it is but a stream of thought and thoughts are the trigger for arguments, misconceptions, as well as for understanding and realisation.Thoughts are but a flow of the mind, over which one can lose or gain control. It is the fine line between losing and gaining control that leads to arguments.
What is an argument? I find the below to be the closest in meaning to my idea of an argument
“a discussion in which reasons are advanced for and against some proposition or proposal ” -info courtsey http://www.elook.org.
The argument , for some reason, is always seen in a negative light. I feel arguing is something that should be inculcated at a very young age. It is inherently present in all chidren, in the form of inquisition. The innocent and genuine interest in a child to question about something that she has not seen/heard/felt before is the most primitive form of argument. She could very easily think of the new happening as just something new, and leave it. But unless curbed by someone a child will always try to question, to learn. The first time a child gets to see ice/ice cream he is fascinated by the look, the colour, the taste , the sheer beauty of the whole thing. As time goes some of these senses take more weight and, as his viewpoints narrow down, he finds himself exhitibiting favouritism. I would term this as the adolescent face of destruction of creativity. This narrowing down is not a natural process. It is well fed by the society and that part of the society which is in close interaction with the child. In many cases it could be the parents, but in most cases it is someone whom the child grows to adore and take for granted until she feels betrayed at some point in time. This again, in most cases is not done with malevolent intent by the person I am talking about, but its just the inherent tendency in people to orient and advise the child in the form they feel is fit, without realising what the child feels about it. I feel it is this confidence to question, that has to be inculcated at a very young age.
Yes, now the question arises ,”just how much freedom of opinion should a child be nurtured to have?”. I would say total freedom. Yes, but again this does not in any way suggest that the child will end up having his way all the time, but just make him aware of what he can know, what he cannot know, and in such cases, why he cannot know, or why he better not know and so on and so forth. The child should thus be infused with confidence daring and compassion. Passion is something I feel has a big role to play in any persons life, and if it is not, then it should be made to play a major role. The fact is that everyone has desires , as long as he is mortal, and a strong positive desire is what I describe as passion here. This , in some form will reside in him as long as he acheives it, whether he is actually working for it, or is going in a wrong direction away from it due to external compulsions. Knowing and realising this is very important for concentrating on any task at hand. Well I say this because anyone who is passionate will have the mentality to empathise with others passions help them realise it. Again knowing this passion at a very young age helps. Thus a child should have the right to question at any time, should be given time to realise his passion and follow it, and should be disiplined to know what discipline is( and nothing above it ). Finally everyone is an individual in this world , with his own thoughts and his own big things to contribute. Everyone has the inborn goodness which has to be safeguarded.
So from arguments to children to the final destination , Love. Everything starts and ends in love. A child is born out of love and and we exit mortality in an embrace of love and death. Man survives his life out of love for someone/something. So a child has to learn of love. It is a the ultimate test, whether it be to find a soulmate, help a friend indeep distress, or more nobly help humanity attain great heights. Love makes us selfless, humble, caring, brotherly, sisterly, motherly,fatherly ..I guess I ve stated my point.and so I stop. It has been a long lecture I guess, but I think its necessary that each and every person thinks deeply about all this , and I guess everyone does at some point in time.Well this was mine and therein my post ends, with heaps of love for all. Peace.
PS -> Imagine, Introspect and Intervene Innoucously and Intelligently.